Secondary Transfer

It is that time of year again when the worries about your child's educational future are either relieved or heightened. If your child got a place at one of the schools of your preference, then hopefully you are happy and optimistic. However, if you were not allocated a school of your preference or have been allocated a school that you feel would be detrimental to your child's educational journey then I am sure that you have a mixture of emotions ranging from confusion, anxiety, bewilderment to straight out frustration and anger. I have worked with hundreds of parents over the years who have experienced a wide spectrum of feelings once they received their child's school allocation and one thing all of them have in common is that they want what is best for their child and that is what is first and foremost in their minds. My first response to the disappointed is BREATH!!! remember how you react will have an impact on your child and you need them to know that no decisions are personal or based on the idea that they are not good enough. Often the decision comes down to a post code. Also bear in mind that just like life itself - situations change and very quickly . It is these parents that I would encourage to look at the situation differently and think - 'How can I make the best of this situation for my child' do not act in anger and turn down the school offered. It is always better to have somewhere to go in September and you can give up the space at any time if things change. Now consider what are our options? what is the worse case scenario? how can we make this work for us? You may decide to appeal against the decision not to offer your child a space in the desired school and it is your legal right to appeal any school that you have applied to (as long as they were higher on your preference ranking than the one offered). If you do decide to exercise your right to appeal have in the back of your mind 1. What was the admissions criteria 2. Is this the only school that can meet my child's needs? 3. Why is this the only school that can meet my child's needs? 4. Is there evidence available to support my appeal. If you would like to talk this through with an experienced independent advisor call me on 07708 318 599 (I offer 30 minutes free consultation and promise to allay some of your fears, calm you down and help you to consider your next steps). If you do decide to appeal - I offer a support service at a reasonable rate also. But above all else please bare in mind that things change, children are both resilient and brilliant so even in the face of adversity they will thrive as long as they have support, reassurance and feel safe. Everything is a learning experience so think about things differently - what can you and your child learn from this disappointment?

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As we try to thaw out and battle through the snow some of us may also be coming to terms with the results of their child’s secondary school application because today is the day that year 6 children and their parents across the UK find out what secondary school they have been given. Good luck! If your child - or anyone you know did not get the school you wanted or one that you are happy with. First things first – BREATH! Things can change in 6 months (just look at the weather). There are still options open to you . If you feel faced with what can seem like a minefield you may have questions running around in your head like: What do we do now? Do I have to accept the place offered? Can I apply to other schools now? Should I appeal? We can help you with this – contact Empowerment Focused www.empowermentfocused.org or inbox us here, leave a number and we will call you. We have over 20 years experience of successfully supporting parents through this process and are trained to do so. We will offer independent advice in a relevant, down to earth way that makes you feel at ease and realise the options available to your individual case. The first conversation is totally free. Please comment, like and share .

Schools are changing daily but one thing will always remain certain - children need an education and people supporting them to access and engage with their schooling to ensure they receive every opportunity to achieve their full potential. There has been a great deal of talk and even more concern about the government’s looming new funding formula for schools. Some schools are set to lose more than others but the biggest losers overall will be our children, our future. Teachers, parents and observers country wide are rallying to oppose the potentially devastating cut backs and lessen the effects on the education of the next generation but very little has been said about the increasing importance of parents. Parents are the first teachers and home is a satellite classroom. Whether you are teaching your child the routine of keeping the home clean and tidy or teaching them to cook or even reading instructions for the latest piece of furniture you have bought. Parents and carers are modelling behaviours and approaches to learning. The role of parents and their engagement with school is crucial and will become increasingly so when statutory services are under pressure. Parents need to recognise the importance of their role and the skills that they have to support their children's education. Skills that they take for granted and often do not equate to the workplace or the school curriculum. I remember a parent of 5 insisting she couldn't properly support her children because she hadn’t done well at school herself. She went on to say she wanted to work but having been at home for so long she didn't have enough experience or the skills to apply for a job. After sitting with her to review a day in her life, we completed an exercise mapping the transferable skills she used in just one day. She was asked her to talk about the previous day starting from the time she woke until the point when she went to bed. This is her account of the day. 6.30am Woke, washed and dressed. Put out uniforms and breakfast for children. 7.00am Woke children from oldest to youngest - sent each to the bathroom (straightening up as I go between rooms).     Completed the breakfast. 7:30am Ate breakfast with children. Talked about our day - gave out tasks and reminders for when they returned from     school. Wrote notes and placed on fridge just in case. 8:15am Packed and sent off the older 3 to secondary school.     Gave 1 child money to pay school journey deposit and explained I will being paying the balance in instalments      Went over this with her so she could tell the school office. 8:40am Got my 2 youngest out of the door into car and off to school on time. 9:00am  Kissed them goodbye - spoke with some parents about me. 9:40am Sat at the kitchen table - worked out all my bills to be paid and shopping list.     Contacted the electricity company to set up a payment plan. 11:00am Supermarket shop - completed in record time because I had to take my elderly neighbour to the GP and     organise her care with the district nurse. 12:45pm Took neighbour to GP surgery for appointment with Dr and nurse.     The meeting was over an hour long because we rewrote the care plan and identified things that she needs.     Also organised new medication and physiotherapist sessions. Now that was just a snippet of half her day. She had managed to do all of those tasks before even stopping for lunch. Through these tasks we identified the following skills: Time management, organisation, budgeting, analytical, comprehension, communication with a range of people, delegation and driving to name but a few. It was pointed out to the parent that these skills are all useful in developing behaviours for learning, accessing the curriculum and gaining employment. They just need to be acknowledged and valued. If you can read medical information and set up care plans you can read most literature and complete a comprehension task - so you can support your children's school work you just need to recognise the transferable skills. As parents we juggle and multi task as part of our day to day life. We need to think creatively and apply our "routine skills" to support and nurture our children.

For the UK’s thousands of year 6ers and their families, today is the day that you find out which secondary school your child will attend in September. Transition to secondary school is one of the many milestones and rites of passage that your child will experience before they reach adulthood. Along with sitting exams, learning to drive, voting for the first time this milestone is one which people often remember well into their later years. For many, you have received the school of your dreams – your first preference and often the one you had set your heart on, sometimes for years. However, there will be a number of parents who have received ‘bad news’ as they have either not been allocated a school of their choice or have been allocated one which they didn’t really want. If you are one of the disappointed parents my first piece of advice is breath………. Remember, decisions on secondary school allocation are not a reflection of your child personally and no matter how difficult it is to fathom – should not be seen as rejection. We have supported many hundreds of parents over the years many of whom cried enough to fill buckets when they got their letters. Others whose anger, if frozen would have created icebergs the size of a nation. I say this because I was one of those parents years ago and know firsthand that the sense of disappointment made me feel almost physically sick then numb because like any parent I desire the best for my child and believed this had been cruelly denied. However, there is hope and things change. If you are one of the parents that did not get allocated your preference here are my BREATH top tips to help you make sense of what for many is the admissions mind field. 1. Breath - Take some time to process what has happened. Things change – not all places allocated are taken up in September. People move area etc and spaces can become available. 2. Reassure - Try to reassure yourself that things will work out. Reassure your child that this is not the end of the line. We do not always get what we want, sometimes when we settle for what we think is second best – in the end it works out to be the best thing that could ever have happened. 3. Evaluate - Think about the school that you have been offered, with an open mind. Remember that all children are different and your friends, family members or communities experience with a particular school will be very different from yours. All too often people form opinions on a school based not on personal experience but the words of others. Go and have a look at what you have been offered with 1 question in mind “Could my child get on here?” Remember that this will be the place where your child will potentially spend the next 5 years. Also think about your options, are there schools that you did not consider that now seem like a good alternative. Broaden your thinking – you can stay on the waiting lists for schools and you can apply to schools you had not considered before – that is your right. It is also your right to lodge an appeal against a decision not to offer you a school. If you chose this route you will need to think realistically about the appeals process and in what circumstances appeals are successful. A starting point for looking into this is ACE – Advisory http://www.ace-ed.org.uk/ 4. Action - Accept the school you have been offered as a safety net. Unless there is something life threatening that means your child cannot attend the school which they have been allocated accept the space. This does not mean that your child will definitely be attending there in September but it does mean that you have a backup plan. Accepting a space does not mean you cannot apply for other schools or appeal for other schools. Accepting the space cannot be used against you if you approach another school. Take the necessary action to change the situation, this includes working to change your perception of the school offered – just in case. Try to make a list of at least 5 positive things about the school allocated that may include distance from home. This will make you feel more at ease and definitely help your child to come to terms with the present situation. 5. Time – Organise your time. Time manage your actions. Ensure you are clear about the deadlines for accepting a place, waiting lists and appeals? Make sure you leave time to collate any information or documents needed. This could mean having to get hold of proof of address etc and this can take time – factor this in. 6. Help – Get support and advice Seek help and advice from people who can explain and guide you through the admissions and appeals system in a calm, objective and down to earth manner. If you or anyone you know needs support with any of this please contact us here at Empowerment Focused. If you email us we will call you back, alternatively call us at the numbers listed http://www.empowermentfocused.org/contact . We offer up to 30 minutes free advice – and reassurance. We are trained advisers with decades of experience in this field; we have a human, down to earth approach. But most importantly BREATH – there really are worse things happening in the world.

Summer is here and school is out - a distant memory for at least another 6 weeks. In my day summer holidays consisted of waking early to watch 'Why don't you' and then deciding that I could be a great inventor, so racing through all the cupboards, drawers and forbidden tools I could get my hands on. Then using odds and ends to make creations that I saw them make on the TV so easily - a washing up liquid rocket ship, toilet roll puppets and pencil cases from old jeans. Fast forward to 2016 - children no longer wanting to watch creative programmes on TV. Why should they? They now have Pokemon's to be hunting. Racing around in various locations trying to catch the rare species. I can see benefits to this:It's cheap, can last for hours and they are out in the fresh air and doing physical activity again, and physically socialising too - Yayyyy!! All you need to do is make sure they have refreshments and are supervised enough to keep them safe. Parents of the world - this could be the way forward. I have heard lots of grumbles about this Pokemon phase - it's ridiculous, it doesn't make sense and it's dangerous. However, there is so much learning to be had here. I saw my nieces and nephews (children and adults alike) come together to hunt Pokemon for over 3 hours recently. It was a great opportunity for them to bond, explore and burn off some energy. My devious teachers mind started racing..........Eureka!- I could keep them occupied for hours. I have made a note to start exploring local attractions and sites that could provide free Pokemon hunting grounds. Here in London there are many parks, riverside walks, city farms, museums and galleries which I intend to use as a stomping ground. I reckon after walking for hours we can then discuss the whole thing for at least another few hours. Conversation is so important in development and guess what...... children probably won't even realise that this whole Pokemon hunt gave them so teaching. I bet they thought they'd got away from education for a while. Counting, identifying, sorting, dividing, researching, discussing, communicating, recording, predicting, team work, tenacity, resilience, creativity, organisation (the list is endless) and most of all having fun! That sounds so familiar to me - all elements of the school curriculum - so who said parents ain't professionals? So Parents/Carers lets get creative and use this Pokemon craze to our advantage!