I have worked with hundreds of parents over the years who have experienced a wide spectrum of feelings once they received their child's school allocation and one thing all of them have in common is that they want what is best for their child and that is what is first and foremost in their minds. My first response to the disappointed is BREATH!!! remember how you react will have an impact on your child and you need them to know that no decisions are personal or based on the idea that they are not good enough. Often the decision comes down to a post code. Also bear in mind that just like life itself - situations change and very quickly .
It is these parents that I would encourage to look at the situation differently and think - 'How can I make the best of this situation for my child' do not act in anger and turn down the school offered. It is always better to have somewhere to go in September and you can give up the space at any time if things change. Now consider what are our options? what is the worse case scenario? how can we make this work for us?
You may decide to appeal against the decision not to offer your child a space in the desired school and it is your legal right to appeal any school that you have applied to (as long as they were higher on your preference ranking than the one offered).
If you do decide to exercise your right to appeal have in the back of your mind 1. What was the admissions criteria 2. Is this the only school that can meet my child's needs? 3. Why is this the only school that can meet my child's needs? 4. Is there evidence available to support my appeal.
If you would like to talk this through with an experienced independent advisor call me on 07708 318 599 (I offer 30 minutes free consultation and promise to allay some of your fears, calm you down and help you to consider your next steps). If you do decide to appeal - I offer a support service at a reasonable rate also.
But above all else please bare in mind that things change, children are both resilient and brilliant so even in the face of adversity they will thrive as long as they have support, reassurance and feel safe. Everything is a learning experience so think about things differently - what can you and your child learn from this disappointment?
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As we try to thaw out and battle through the snow some of us may also be coming to terms with the results of their child’s secondary school application because today is the day that year 6 children and their parents across the UK find out what secondary school they have been given. Good luck!
If your child - or anyone you know did not get the school you wanted or one that you are happy with. First things first – BREATH! Things can change in 6 months (just look at the weather).
There are still options open to you . If you feel faced with what can seem like a minefield you may have questions running around in your head like: What do we do now? Do I have to accept the place offered? Can I apply to other schools now? Should I appeal?
We can help you with this – contact Empowerment Focused www.empowermentfocused.org or inbox us here, leave a number and we will call you. We have over 20 years experience of successfully supporting parents through this process and are trained to do so. We will offer independent advice in a relevant, down to earth way that makes you feel at ease and realise the options available to your individual case. The first conversation is totally free.
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There has been a great deal of talk and even more concern about the government’s looming new funding formula for schools. Some schools are set to lose more than others but the biggest losers overall will be our children, our future.
Teachers, parents and observers country wide are rallying to oppose the potentially devastating cut backs and lessen the effects on the education of the next generation but very little has been said about the increasing importance of parents. Parents are the first teachers and home is a satellite classroom. Whether you are teaching your child the routine of keeping the home clean and tidy or teaching them to cook or even reading instructions for the latest piece of furniture you have bought. Parents and carers are modelling behaviours and approaches to learning. The role of parents and their engagement with school is crucial and will become increasingly so when statutory services are under pressure.
Parents need to recognise the importance of their role and the skills that they have to support their children's education. Skills that they take for granted and often do not equate to the workplace or the school curriculum.
I remember a parent of 5 insisting she couldn't properly support her children because she hadn’t done well at school herself. She went on to say she wanted to work but having been at home for so long she didn't have enough experience or the skills to apply for a job.
After sitting with her to review a day in her life, we completed an exercise mapping the transferable skills she used in just one day. She was asked her to talk about the previous day starting from the time she woke until the point when she went to bed. This is her account of the day.
6.30am Woke, washed and dressed. Put out uniforms and breakfast for children.
7.00am Woke children from oldest to youngest - sent each to the bathroom (straightening up as I go between rooms).
Completed the breakfast.
7:30am Ate breakfast with children. Talked about our day - gave out tasks and reminders for when they returned from
school. Wrote notes and placed on fridge just in case.
8:15am Packed and sent off the older 3 to secondary school.
Gave 1 child money to pay school journey deposit and explained I will being paying the balance in instalments
Went over this with her so she could tell the school office.
8:40am Got my 2 youngest out of the door into car and off to school on time.
9:00am Kissed them goodbye - spoke with some parents about me.
9:40am Sat at the kitchen table - worked out all my bills to be paid and shopping list.
Contacted the electricity company to set up a payment plan.
11:00am Supermarket shop - completed in record time because I had to take my elderly neighbour to the GP and
organise her care with the district nurse.
12:45pm Took neighbour to GP surgery for appointment with Dr and nurse.
The meeting was over an hour long because we rewrote the care plan and identified things that she needs.
Also organised new medication and physiotherapist sessions.
Now that was just a snippet of half her day. She had managed to do all of those tasks before even stopping for lunch. Through these tasks we identified the following skills: Time management, organisation, budgeting, analytical, comprehension, communication with a range of people, delegation and driving to name but a few.
It was pointed out to the parent that these skills are all useful in developing behaviours for learning, accessing the curriculum and gaining employment. They just need to be acknowledged and valued. If you can read medical information and set up care plans you can read most literature and complete a comprehension task - so you can support your children's school work you just need to recognise the transferable skills.
As parents we juggle and multi task as part of our day to day life. We need to think creatively and apply our "routine skills" to support and nurture our children.
Did you know that if you wish to appeal the school has to allow at least 20 days from offer day (1st of March) for you to submit a case. However, a successful case will need evidence to support it and if you are seeking this from professionals such as social workers, therapists or doctors this could take much longer than this deadline to get together.
5 Top Tips
1. Make sure that your child is on the waiting list for the schools that you would consider – things change daily and spaces can become available.
2. You can appeal for any or all of the schools where you were unsuccessful.
3. Submit an appeal which outlines your case and explain that you will send evidence in good time prior to appeal. You have to be in it to win it. So please don’t stress just register your intention by submitting your outline appeal
to the school and follow it up.
4. Remember any appeal has to make it clear why a particular school is the only place your child can attend.
5. Do not get disheartened – keep an open mind about the school that your child has received an offer from and go
and see it – get a feel for it with one question in mind “could my child do well here?”
If you need support or advice with an appeal or to discuss your options regarding secondary schools admissions please contact us at: empowermentfocused.org we are down to earth, experienced trained advisors who offer an independent service at a very reasonable price.
Fast forward to 2016 - children no longer wanting to watch creative programmes on TV. Why should they? They now have Pokemon's to be hunting. Racing around in various locations trying to catch the rare species.
I can see benefits to this:It's cheap, can last for hours and they are out in the fresh air and doing physical activity again, and physically socialising too - Yayyyy!!
All you need to do is make sure they have refreshments and are supervised enough to keep them safe. Parents of the world - this could be the way forward.
I have heard lots of grumbles about this Pokemon phase - it's ridiculous, it doesn't make sense and it's dangerous.
However, there is so much learning to be had here. I saw my nieces and nephews (children and adults alike) come together to hunt Pokemon for over 3 hours recently. It was a great opportunity for them to bond, explore and burn off some energy.
My devious teachers mind started racing..........Eureka!- I could keep them occupied for hours. I have made a note to start exploring local attractions and sites that could provide free Pokemon hunting grounds. Here in London there are many parks, riverside walks, city farms, museums and galleries which I intend to use as a stomping ground. I reckon after walking for hours we can then discuss the whole thing for at least another few hours. Conversation is so important in development and guess what...... children probably won't even realise that this whole Pokemon hunt gave them so teaching. I bet they thought they'd got away from education for a while.
Counting, identifying, sorting, dividing, researching, discussing, communicating, recording, predicting, team work, tenacity, resilience, creativity, organisation (the list is endless) and most of all having fun! That sounds so familiar to me - all elements of the school curriculum - so who said parents ain't professionals? So Parents/Carers lets get creative and use this Pokemon craze to our advantage!